The ride to Zaqatala was long, but not so grueling (especially comparing our marshutka to the group going hours farther than us, with an extra person and about 3 feet less of vehicle length). We dropped off each new Volunteer one by one as we headed North up what we call the middle finger, which is the lump of land that extends upward from the middle of Azerbaijan (Baku is the thumb). My village is the farthest north, so thusly I was the last dropped off. I paid the driver the lump sum for all of us, and he waited with me under the deer statue that signifies the road to Muxax, my village, until someone came to pick up the very solitary foreign girl.
My welcome brigade pulled up in a taxi; all four women were smushed side-by-side in the backseat, as is proper for women who are not related to the (usually male) driver. They consisted of my fellow teachers, one being Assistant Director, and one being the Director's wife. One was Aynur, my counterpart who was at the conference in Baku. They are a friendly lot and were downright giddy to finally see me.
The first impressions of my new home were a little worrying. I was greeted by Nefset, who I knew to be a homemaker, and who didn't seem too thrilled to have me parading into her house with my deluge of bags and my army of school teachers. She is quite honestly the only thin middle-aged Azerbaijani woman I have seen in my time here. I knew she was single (a widow), and I assumed her to be somewhat cold and heart broken, almost down-trodden. We all sat a bit awkwardly at the dining room/ living room/ family room table and tried to talk as much as we could over tea. Eventually the Director himself arrived to pick up his wife, and I got to say hello and again facilitate awkward moments of not having anything to say (in Azeri or English).
Later, I asked Aynur where the bathroom was. She proceded to lead me at least a quarter of a mile out into the yard, over a tiny stream, through a gate, to the outhouse which is next to the chicken coop. My heart fell as low as the poop does when I laid eyes on the gaping hole that will serve as my "throne" for the next two years.
Dinner was fried chicken (my least favorite meat), and of course since Azeris are the most hospitible beings on the planet, I was forked over the "best" pieces (which is the white meat, which I detest). I was feeling a little bit sorry for myself at this point, when Rubabe came home, followed closely by Mahir, my 18-year-old brother. Rubabe is my other host mother, she is big-boned and full-figured, has a deep, warm voice like toffee, and is a winker. She instantly took away the awkwardness and summoned smiles from everybody. After the entourage of teachers left, I saw the true form of Nefset and her home come to life.
Rubabe is Nefset's sister-in-law, her late husband's sister. Mahir is Nefset's son. Rubabe has grown children, even two granddaughters, but her husband has passed as well. So my home situation is a little unique, and I'm still not sure how Rubabe decided to move in to Nefset's home. But its a really comfortable and warm place where they like to rag on Mahir for being lazy and a poor student, yet cook him tasty meals and cakes, serve him tea, clean up after him. (But he does offer me tea when he gets a cup for himself, so don't get the wrong impression.)
We were sitting just the three of us on the first night, watching tv, when the door opens, and a young man weilding a kebob enters. he suspends it towards me and says, "Buyurun (here you go)". I am introduced to one of the three 20-something year old neighbor boys. Soon afterwards his young wife comes over too, 8-month-old baby in tow. They've got quite a beautiful brood next door, and just as beautiful of a house. It is the home of Rubabe's brother and his family; two of the sons are married, and as it goes in Azerbaijan, the young wives have left their own families and moved into their husbands' home.
That evening I also got to take an extremly lovely bath in our hamam, which is attached to the house, but only accessible from the front porch. It has a bath tub, a huge water heater, and nowhere for the heat to fly out of, which is all I need.
I had kept convincing myself the whole night that Aynur had showed me the only bathroom (tualet) she knew about, that actually she was unaware of the real tualet that the family members use, that when I would be shown by Rubabe or Nefset where to relieve myself, she would lead me to a room in the back of the house which would be quaint, yet indoors, and a big relief for my heart. I somehow managed to not pee the rest of the night until morning, and I timidly asked my new host mother, "yalniz tualet ordadir?" only tualet is over there?, she smiled and said, "ha, ordadir. bashga tualet yoxdur", there is no other tualet.
Fortunatley my first impressions of Nefset (Neppe baji [sister], as we call her) as being unfriendly were wrong. She is a lovely and lively woman who reminds me a bit of my own mother: beautiful and works too much. I had heard her mention that she wasn't expecting me at the time I arrived, which explains her flustered attitude as I stumbled through her front gate. Also, the four teachers who I was with she barely knows, which would make anybody uncomfortable in their own home; not to mention, teachers apparently can be very clique-y.
I am very comfortable in my new home. I have (almost) gotten used to the outhouse, and Mahir has proven himself just as annoying as a real younger brother. I'd say Rubabe is the man of the house; she is very protective over me and is willing to yell at anybody who tries to give me trouble. I think we make a pretty swell household, if not sitcom-worthy. Let's see if I can make it here for the next two years. It's what we're all gunning for.